Can you tell the number of men a woman has slept with before you?
You can’t know for sure unless she tells you (and even then, she might lie),
but there are strong indicators that suggest a woman has had many partners.
Here are some of the best ways to assess it:
- She’s Been in the Party Scene for Years
Women who spend their early 20s clubbing, attending wild parties, or traveling frequently for “girls’ trips” often have high body counts.
The party scene is full of hookups, and it’s rare for a woman to be in that environment and remain untouched.
- She Has a History of Short-Term or Casual Relationships
If she has had many “situationships,” flings, or friends with benefits, it’s a clear sign she’s been around.
If she struggles to name serious relationships but has plenty of “fun stories,” that’s a red flag.
- She’s Highly Active on Social Media
A woman who constantly posts seductive photos, engages with random men in her DMs,
or has a lot of male attention online is likely entertaining multiple options.
Social media is a breeding ground for validation-seeking women who get flown out and passed around.
- She Has a Lot of Male Friends
Women who keep a roster of “male friends” or “brothers” are often hiding past or potential lovers.
No man sticks around as a “friend” unless there’s something in it for him,
and women who claim otherwise usually have histories with those men.
- She’s Too Experienced in the Bedroom
If she knows advanced bedroom techniques, has no hesitation trying new things, or is overly confident in bed,
she didn’t learn that from books.
Experience comes from practice, and too much practice means too many partners.
- She Speaks Casually About Hookup Culture
Women with high body counts often don’t see casual sex as a big deal.
If she frequently talks about “sexual liberation,” “experimenting,” or has no shame in discussing her past,
she likely has a long list of partners.
- She’s Been Engaged or in Multiple Long-Term Relationships That Failed
A woman who has had multiple long-term relationships but never settled down was either cheating, non-committal, or keeping her options open.
If men in her past have invested in her but never stayed, it suggests she wasn’t relationship material.
- She Has Tattoos or an Alternative Lifestyle
This isn’t a hard rule, but women with excessive tattoos, piercings,
or extreme feminist views often embrace a more “free-spirited” lifestyle, which includes sleeping around.
- She’s Secretive About Her Past
If she gets defensive, vague, or refuses to talk about her past relationships and experiences,
it often means there’s something to hide.
Women with low body counts usually have no problem being open because there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
- She Believes in “Living in the Moment”
Women who say things like “the past doesn’t matter” or “what matters is the present”
often have a past they want you to ignore.
A woman with a low body count has no issue with accountability,
while a woman with a high one tries to downplay it.
While none of these alone prove anything, when multiple signs align, the probability is high.
If you value purity and loyalty, it’s best to choose a woman whose past aligns with what you want for the future.
