Men, be very careful when you marry or get in a relationship with a woman.
There’s a process called Betatization.
A very slow process that is not easy to notice.
Your woman starts by becoming too familiar with you and making small innocent requests like, “kam na maziwa please.”
She then senses that she can send you around eg, to take the garbage outside or to draw the curtains or to collect used plates.
Next, she starts to make small rules like, you should not send your parents money if you’re not sending hers too.
Then, big rules! Ukipata nimelala usiniamshe! (In a house you built or pay rent)
The more you agree, the more she loses respect and attraction for you.
With time, a once submissive woman becomes a Wangú wa Makeri in your own house.
By this time, she is already submissive to an alpha somewhere in your neighborhood.
To avoid being betatized, remain the man she met in the first place.
Do not change for her.
Continue being scarce, even if you marry her.
Continue working hard and being busy.
Meet your associates, go to the gym, build your business, flirt with women and be in charge.
Delegate most of the house chores to her, tease her and don’t tell your plans.
Be unpredictable always.
Be a life long puzzle she will never solve and don’t participate in her shit tests.
Shit tests are bad behavior she exhibits to test your cool.
For example, she will cook at 8 pm yet you told her that your food should be ready at 6:50 pm.
Don’t eat that food.
Tell her you don’t eat food cooked late, deliberately.
You get the point.
If you allow misbehavior, you’ll be feeding anarchy in your house.
She is not your partner; she’s your assistant.
Your house (Tribe) is not a democracy.
