Men, it’s time we have a painful but necessary conversation. For decades, we’ve been throwing away money in the name of love, building women’s lives while ruining our own. We’ve been trained to be financial sacrificial lambs—handing over hard-earned wealth to women who, in most cases, don’t even appreciate it. Enough is enough.
This article will not be politically correct. It will not be “kind.” It will offend women who have been feasting on men’s wallets. It might start a national revolution in Kenya, greater than that of #RejectFinanceBill2024.
Here are the 10 dumbest money mistakes Kenyan men make for women—and what to do instead, as a wise man.
- Paying Bride Price for a Non-Virgin
(Why Are You Buying a Second or 3rd or 6th or 19th-Hand Car at Zero Mileage Price?)
Traditionally, bride price was a symbolic way of appreciating a family for raising a virgin daughter.
But in 2025? You’re being charged full price for a woman who has already been test-driven by multiple drivers!
Many men have taken loans to pay bride price, only to realize the woman has been used more than a boda boda in Gikomba.
Why should you pay a premium price for something another man got for free?
Even if she’s a virgin, you are the prize.
You are offering leadership, provision, protection and identity to her!
What are you getting in return?
Yeah, her family shouldn’t bill you.
Your family also took you to school and raised you into a man worth following.
Better Alternative:
Instead of paying bride price, invest that money in a business or assets in your name.
If she truly values you, she will marry you without demanding a single shilling.
- Throwing Millions into a Wedding
(A One-Day Party That Leaves You Broke for Years?)
The modern wedding is a woman’s dream, but a man’s financial nightmare.
You spend millions on flowers, food, and a fancy venue—just to impress people who will go home and gossip about you.
Meanwhile, the woman gains status, but you?
You gain a debt and a stressed-out wife who now controls you because “you spent all that money, you better make this work!”
Read about Sank Cost Fallacy.
Better Alternative:
Instead of a wedding, buy land and build a home in YOUR name.
If a ceremony is needed, make it simple—just elders, a goat, and a few witnesses.
If she refuses a simple ceremony, she doesn’t love you—she loves status.
Let her find a man stupid enough to accept her shenanigans.
- Hosting Baby Showers
(Why Are You Celebrating Work You Haven’t Even Finished?)
A baby shower is a female vanity event, where a woman gets gifts and attention for something that isn’t even a full achievement yet.
You don’t celebrate planting a seed—you celebrate the harvest!
Meanwhile, you are spending money on food, décor, and a photographer, while your unborn child has no trust fund, no land, no investments.
Better Alternative:
Instead of a baby shower, use that money to buy a goat, chickens, or even plant trees for the child’s future.
Open an education fund for the baby instead of buying party decorations.
A man prepares long-term, not for Instagram photos.
- Paying School Fees for a Woman
(You’re Funding Your Own Replacement, Genius!)
Many men think paying for her degree means she’ll be grateful and loyal. Wrong.
The moment she graduates and gets a good job, she’ll start looking for an “educated” man.
She’ll say you’re now “not on the same level.”
She’ll leave you and marry a guy who never spent a cent on her.
You? You’ll be left alone, broke, and blaming witches from your village.
Better Alternative:
Instead of paying her fees, pay for a course that improves YOUR skills or grows YOUR business.
If she truly values education, her family or the government can sponsor her. Not you.
(And she better explain how she intend to perform her wife duties while she is with her professor.)
A woman should join to build your empire, not drain it.
- Starting a Business for Her
(SPOILER ALERT: 99% of These Businesses Fail—And You Lose Both the Money and the Woman!)
Most women don’t want businesses—they want lifestyle funding.
They’ll ask you for capital, then spend half of it on wigs, iPhones, and “launch parties.”
When the business fails (which it will, because she has no discipline),
she will say, “It’s your fault! You didn’t support me enough!”
Better Alternative:
Instead of starting a business for her, start one in YOUR name and let her work in it.
If she’s serious about business, let her invest her own money or at least prove she has a plan.
A real woman builds with you, not on your back.
- Buying Her a Car
(A High-Value Asset That Quickly Becomes a Cheating Tool)
A car gives her mobility and freedom—meaning she can now go places without you, meet people without you, and do things you may never know about.
You’re thinking, “I’m helping my woman.”
She’s thinking, “Now I can go to Java and meet that guy I’ve been texting.”
Better Alternative:
If she truly needs a car, she can drive YOURS—but it stays in YOUR name.
Instead of buying a car, invest in land or business that will appreciate in value.
A genuine woman doesn’t go anywhere without her man’s approval and protection.
- Buying Property in Her Name
(You’re Building Her Escape Plan!)
If you buy land, a house, or an apartment in her name, you are officially the dumbest man alive.
You work hard, buy property, and the day she decides she’s done with you, you get kicked out like a rent-defaulting useless tenant!
Better Alternative:
Buy property only in YOUR name or in your children’s trust fund.
If she truly trusts you, she won’t demand that the title be in her name.
- Taking a Loan for Her
(She Leaves, But the Bank Stays!)
The moment you take a loan for her business, school, or “emergency,” you’ve dug your own grave.
If things go wrong, she leaves—but the debt remains on your head.
Better Alternative:
Loans should only be taken for investments that generate income—not emotions.
If she needs money, her family should help.
If her family needs money, her father should solve it.
Do not accept the guilt card she will play, “Kumbe you can’t help my family?”
You owe your in-laws NOTHING.
- Over-Spoiling Her with Gifts & Vacations
(She’s Not a Queen—You’re Not Her Slave!)
The more you spoil her, the less she values you.
Women respect men who discipline them, not men who throw money at them.
Better Alternative:
Only give what makes sense—not to impress her.
- Birthday Parties
(Why Are You Financing a Celebration of Time Passing?)
Every year, men are pressured to throw expensive birthday parties for their women—lavish dinners, cake, drinks, gifts, even surprise vacations.
But what exactly are you celebrating?
Did she invent time?
Did she achieve something meaningful?
Did she build you a house?
No? Then why the hell are you spending money?
She turns a year older, and you turn a year poorer.
Meanwhile, the same woman you financed is out here posting “My birthday, my rules!” as she collects money and gifts from other men, too.
Better Alternative:
Instead of wasting money on a birthday, buy an asset in your name.
If you must celebrate, a simple home-cooked meal is enough.
If she complains, tell her you’ll throw a big party when she gives birth to your 3rd son.
Kenyan men have been brainwashed into spending money like fools, thinking it will earn them loyalty. It won’t.
A man should be a builder, not a sponsor.
Final Word:
A Tribal Chief does not finance a woman’s independence. He builds his own empire—and she joins to expand it.
Stay smart. Stay ruthless. Protect your wealth.
