A man who does not master his relationship with his parents will forever be a boy—seeking approval, avoiding conflict, and bending his knee instead of ruling his kingdom. A Tribal Chief honors his lineage, but never at the cost of his power.
This is your constitution for handling your parents—brutal, wise, and rooted in nature’s law.
SECTION 1: GENERAL PRINCIPLES OF MANAGING YOUR PARENTS
- You do not owe your parents your soul.
They gave you life, but that does not mean they own you.
You are not their personal retirement plan, their emotional crutch, or their extension in the world.
Your life is yours alone to live, and while respect is due, slavery is not.
- A man must honor his parents without being enslaved by them.
Many men confuse honor with obedience and end up being ruled by their parents long into adulthood.
Honor means respect. Slavery means submission.
If your father or mother wants to control you like a child, cut the leash.
- A son is not a retirement plan.
In many cultures, parents expect their sons to sacrifice their own ambitions to take care of the family.
A man must provide where possible, but never at the cost of his own destiny.
Your empire comes first. Unapologetically.
- Never allow your parents to control your household.
Once you start your own home, your parents become guests, not rulers.
The day your mother starts commanding your wife,
or your father starts making decisions for your children,
you have lost your kingdom.
- When you become a man, you must become the leader.
In traditional tribes, when the young lion becomes strong enough, he takes over the pride.
In human civilization, the principle remains the same.
If your father was strong, surpass him.
If he was weak, replace his leadership with your own.
SECTION 2: HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR PARENTS LIKE A CHIEF
- Build them comfort, not control.
If you can afford it, provide for your parents in a way that makes them comfortable but does not give them influence over your life.
Buy or build them a house if needed, but never let them move into yours and start running your affairs.
- Let them feel needed without interfering in your rule.
Give them meaningful tasks—like taking care of their grandchildren or advising on minor family matters—
but never let them micromanage your life.
They must feel respected, but not powerful over you.
- If your parents are financially struggling, support them without crippling yourself.
There is no honor in ruining your financial future just to prove you are a good son.
Help within your limits. A drowning man cannot save others.
- Do not give them money for luxuries while you struggle to build wealth.
Many parents guilt-trip their children into funding lavish lifestyles at their own expense.
If your father wants a new car but you are still renting a small apartment, who comes first?
- If they become toxic and manipulative, create distance.
You owe your parents respect, but you do not owe them your peace of mind.
Some parents use emotional blackmail to control their sons.
A real man sets boundaries.
SECTION 3: THE MOTHER’S INFLUENCE AND HER LIMITS
- Your mother is the first woman you loved, but she must not be the most important woman in your life.
Many men make the mistake of putting their mothers above their wives.
Your mother is the wife of your father.
A man must transfer his love to his queen.
If your mother is still your top priority, you are not ready for marriage.
- Your mother will naturally want to keep control—break away early.
Every mother sees her son as her little boy.
If you do not assert independence early, she will continue treating you like a child.
The sooner you become a man in her eyes, the sooner she will respect your rule.
- A man who is too close to his mother loses his masculinity.
A mother’s nature is to nurture and soften.
If you are too close, you will inherit her softness instead of your father’s strength.
- Never let your mother choose your wife.
A mother will subconsciously pick a woman she can control.
If you let her choose, your wife will be her puppet, not your queen.
- If your mother disrespects your wife, correct her immediately.
Silence is submission.
If your mother belittles your wife and you do nothing, you are betraying your own household.
- Never let your wife and mother fight for dominance.
You must set the order of the house firmly so that this battle never begins.
The Tribal Chief must rule with clarity.
- If your mother refuses to respect your wife, create space.
Respect is non-negotiable.
If she becomes toxic, visit her less frequently and make it clear why.
- Never take relationship advice from your mother.
A mother’s love cannot teach you how to lead a woman. Learn from men.
- If you are raised by a single mother, find strong male mentors.
A mother’s love is not a substitute for masculine guidance.
If you had no father, seek wisdom from strong men.
Your grandfather, uncles, boss or Doctor Kimbo.
- If your mother sees you as her little boy forever, prove her wrong.
Do not ask for permission to be a man. Take it.
SECTION 4: THE FATHER—RESPECT, RIVALRY, AND SURPASSING HIM
Your father is supposed to be the first model of masculinity in your life.
He is meant to be your blueprint, the rock upon which you build your own strength.
But what if he is weak? What if he is absent?
What if he resents your success?
A Tribal Chief does not blindly worship his father.
He honors what is good, surpasses what is great, and replaces what is weak.
- Your father is your first model of manhood—but he is not your ceiling.
Many men worship their fathers as if they were gods.
They believe that whatever their father did is the ultimate limit of what they can achieve. This is a mistake.
Your father was a man, just like you.
Flawed, imperfect, and bound by the limitations of his time.
If he was great, learn from him. If he was weak, learn what not to do.
But in all cases, your mission is to become greater.
A true Tribal Chief does not stay in his father’s shadow—he builds his own kingdom.
- If your father was weak, replace his legacy with yours.
A weak father does not mean you must inherit weakness.
Many men are born to fathers who were timid, broke, submissive to their wives, or lacking in vision.
If this is you, understand this: You are the reset button.
Nature does not care if your father was a failure.
If you are strong enough, you can break the cycle.
Do not weep over the father you wish you had—become the father you wish he was.
- If your father was strong, learn from him—then beat him at his own game.
A strong father is a blessing—but he is also a challenge.
If your father was a great leader, a warrior, a businessman, or a master of his craft, your mission is simple:
Surpass him. Outdo him 3-5 times.
If he built a local business, build a national or global platform/network.
If he was physically strong, become stronger.
If he commanded respect, command even more.
This is not disrespect.
This is the natural order of powerful bloodlines.
The son must always be greater than the father, or the lineage weakens.
Your father should be proud to see you outgrow him.
Your father must have surpassed your grandfather.
- If your father does not respect your rule, take it by force.
Some fathers refuse to acknowledge that their son has become a man.
They keep treating him like a boy, interfering in his decisions, mocking his leadership, and trying to control his home.
A weak man allows this. A Tribal Chief does not.
Respect is not given freely—it is taken.
The day your father disrespects you as a man is the day you must stand your ground.
No shouting. No emotional nonsense. Just cold, raw power.
If he insults your leadership, prove him wrong.
If he tries to control your household, set boundaries. Ban him from coming there.
If he refuses to recognize your authority, make him feel your power.
Your father may have created you, but he does not own you.
(Remember once the sperm leaves your body, it is not the property of the state)
If he does not respect you, force him to.
- If your father is wise, keep him as an elder in your kingdom.
A great father is an advisor, not a ruler.
Once you become a man, your father should step back and allow you to lead your own life.
A wise father does not try to rule his son’s kingdom.
Instead, he becomes a respected elder, offering counsel but never interference.
If your father is such a man, keep him close.
His wisdom can be an asset—but only if he knows his place.
- If your father fears your success, keep your distance.
Not all fathers are proud when their sons rise.
Some resent it.
Some see their son’s success as a threat.
These men do not want to be outshined, so they will try to sabotage you.
If your father becomes jealous of your power, understand this:
He is no longer your ally.
A good father wants his son to surpass him.
A weak father tries to pull his son down.
If you see your father behaving this way—distance yourself.
- If your father was absent, create your own masculine tribe.
An absent father leaves a void—but you must not let it consume you.
Many men waste their lives resenting their fathers instead of becoming the men they needed.
If your father was not there, find men who can guide you.
Learn from mentors.
Build alliances with strong men.
Surround yourself with warriors, not weaklings.
A father’s absence is not an excuse for failure. If no one passed the torch to you, light the fire yourself.
- Never let your father manipulate you through guilt.
Some fathers use guilt as a weapon.
They remind you of how they “sacrificed” for you, how they “did their best,” and how you should be “grateful.”
Gratitude is one thing. Slavery is another.
If your father uses guilt to control you, recognize it for what it is—manipulation.
Respect his struggles, but never let them dictate your life.
- If your father disrespects your wife, correct him like a man.
Your father had his chance to rule a household.
Now it is yours.
If he disrespects your wife, he is undermining your leadership.
Do not tolerate it.
Set boundaries.
Make it clear that your wife is under your protection.
If he refuses to respect your home, he is no longer welcome in it.
A man who cannot defend his own household is not fit to be a leader.
- If your father wants your woman, exile him from your kingdom.
This is one of the greatest betrayals.
If your father even hints at being interested in your woman,
he is no longer family—he is an enemy.
There is no room for mercy.
There is no room for second chances.
A father who competes with his son for women is a man who has failed at life.
A Tribal Chief does not share his throne with a traitor. Exile him immediately.
So, remember,
Your father was your first example of manhood—but he is not your master.
Honor him if he is worthy.
Surpass him if he is strong.
Replace him if he is weak.
A Tribal Chief is not ruled by his father—he rules himself.
Now, go forth and claim your throne.
SECTION 5: THE FINAL LAWS OF MANAGING PARENTS—POWER, BALANCE, AND DOMINANCE
Now we arrive at the final set of laws. This is where men either rise or fall when dealing with their parents.
If you master these last laws, you will never be manipulated, weakened, or controlled by your upbringing.
- Your mother’s love is unconditional—her respect is not.
A mother will always love her son. This is biological.
But respect is a different matter.
Mothers respect strength, decisiveness, and leadership, just like your femeos.
If you behave like a weak, indecisive, mother-dependent boy, she will see you as just that—a boy.
She will give you orders like a child.
She will interfere with your home like a queen mother.
She will override your decisions because she thinks she knows better.
A mother respects a man who stands firm—not a boy who needs permission.
- If your mother hates your wife, let her cry alone.
Many mothers develop irrational hatred toward their son’s wife.
This is not because the wife is bad—it’s because the mother feels replaced.
This is not your problem.
Your mother had her turn to be the queen of her own home.
Now it’s your wife’s turn.
If your mother refuses to accept this, that is her burden to bear—not yours.
Do not let her dictate your marriage.
The day you let your mother choose your woman is the day you stop being a man. Remember that, My Tribal Chief.
- Your father should never live under your roof.
A king does not house another king in his castle.
If your father is still alive in his old age, he should have his own space.
Why? Because the moment he lives under your roof, he will try to reassert dominance.
He will comment on your wife, your children, your money, your decisions.
A Tribal Chief does not share his throne.
If your father is old, help him in a way that allows him to retain his dignity—without interfering in your kingdom.
- Your mother should never live with you full-time either.
Nothing softens a man like constant motherly influence.
She will not care how powerful you are—she will treat you like her little boy.
She will see you with your warrior face on, commanding your household, ruling your empire, and she will still say:
“But did you eat today?”
“Why are you looking so stressed? Let me make you tea.”
She will wrap you in comfort until you forget how to be ruthless.
If she needs help, support her—but keep her in her own space.
- You do not “hire” your parents—they serve as elders, not employees.
Some men make the mistake of putting their parents on their payroll.
They think they are doing a good thing—until they realize they have created overgrown dependents.
Instead of hiring your parents, do this:
Set up a passive income for them (investments, land, rental properties).
Give them occasional financial gifts, not salaries.
Make them elders, not workers.
A parent who depends on your monthly paycheck will start treating you like their boss—or worse, their slave.
- If your father is still sexually active, be cautious with your women.
It is a rare situation, but it happens: a father competing with his son for women.
A father who still lusts like a young man will see you as a rival, not a son.
He may even desire your woman just to prove he still has it.
If you suspect this behavior, cut him off immediately.
This is a man who has lost his honor.
You do not compete with your father for women—he should already be retired from the game.
You too must not desire his concubines. Have some shame.
If they seduce you, pretend not to notice.
- If your father was a king in his time, let him retire as an honored elder.
Not all fathers need to be challenged or exiled.
Some were strong men in their time, but their time has passed.
Such men should not be treated as rivals but as honored elders.
They should sit at the table as wise advisors, not as rulers.
Do not let them command your home.
Do not let them override your rule.
But do let them share their wisdom.
A true Tribal Chief respects the past—but does not live in it.
- Never let your parents control your children.
Your children are your future.
Some parents will try to control how you raise them.
They will spoil them with too much softness.
They will interfere with your discipline.
They will teach them weakness because they want to be the “favorite grandparent.”
Do not allow it.
Your children are being raised in your world, not theirs.
A Tribal Chief raises his sons to be warriors, not weaklings.
If your parents interfere, shut them down.
- You owe your parents respect—but not blind obedience.
Some parents believe that because they gave birth to you, you must obey them forever.
This is not how power works.
A man must grow beyond obedience.
Respect them, but do not bow to them.
Honor them, but do not let them rule you.
Love them, but do not let them weaken you.
A boy obeys. A man decides.
- If your parents refuse to respect you, exile them from your kingdom.
Blood alone does not buy loyalty.
If your parents constantly undermine, sabotage, or disrespect you, they have given you no choice.
Exile them.
No more financial support.
No more access to your home.
No more influence over your life.
It is painful, but necessary.
A king who allows traitors in his court will be poisoned.
If they choose to return with respect, they may re-enter. If not, let them go.
- A Tribal Chief does not live in his father’s shadow—he casts his own.
At the end of it all, you must build your own name.
Your father may have been great—or weak.
Your mother may have been loving—or controlling.
It does not matter.
The past is done.
The only thing that matters is what you create.
A true Tribal Chief is not his father’s son forever.
He is his own man.
He builds his own power, his own wealth, and his own legacy.
Your kingdom will not be measured by what your parents did—but by what you accomplish.
You are no longer a boy in your mother’s arms.
You are no longer a child under your father’s rule.
You are a man.
You are a leader.
You are a Tribal Chief.
From this day forward, your bloodline follows your law.
Your parents gave you life, but they do not own you.
Now, go forth and rule.
